My Regrets As a First Class Nigerian Student (A must Read)

My Regrets As a First Class Nigerian Student – – –

Just as a sick man in his dying bed has a heavy heart laden with lots of grief and regrets

of things unaccomplished, I sat there in the fields that warm evening starring at the faculty

building with mixed feelings of achievement and regrets.

I had lived the life of a perfect student. I had great passion for studying and some sort of

insatiable desire for knowledge. I excelled in every of my examinations and this feat

spurred up the feeling of invincibility in my subconscious mind.

I wasn’t a popular fellow but I believe that mentioning my name portrayed the picture of a

focused student with outstanding academic abilities in the mind of the few that knew me.

Those few years, I always pictured a beautiful future with me in it doing great things.

However, I began to realize the big gap between me and the rest of the world. The wall I

built between me and my friends as a freshman. Gradually, I knew names of authors and

textbooks and yet hardly remembered the names of fri ends. It dawned on me that in few

months, I would not be seeing some of my friends anymore, probably forever. I would miss

them for life. Their smiles, discussions and company would be memories.

Though its a wonderful thing that as I round up my undergraduate studies, I have an

academic record to be proud of, I had some regrets and some feelings that haunt me. I

couldnt help it. Its the price I paid.

Some days I wish there were 30 hours in a day.

I knew how to manage my time but my schedule favored my books more.

Some folks would say “you can’t have your cake and eat it.” Well I believe I can afford yet

another ‘cake’ God willing.

I wish I spent more time listening to my friends when they cared to speak.

I wish I was more flexible.

I wish I spent more time with the people I loved.

I wish I spent more time to discuss with my professors.

I wish I reciprocated the attention I received from my colleagues.

I wish I took the time to reach out to my junior colleagues with words of advice and


I wish I created the time to reach out to my professors and seniors for advice, coaching

and mentorship.

I wish I spent more time building my network of contacts and associates.

I wish I had the time to tutor my mates that failed their courses or had a hard time passing


I wish I gave out my heart to love and be loved in return.

I wish I took the time to observe my changing world.

Nevertheless, as I sat there, I was consoled of the fact that I still had few more months left

and I swore to make a difference within that little space of time. I wouldnt have felt any


To my fellow scholars and graduates, who by hard work and devotion have come out of

university with a First, I say congratulations on your well deserved feat.

To intending university students and undergraduates, you have endless possibilities, you

posses the power to achieve your dreams if only you’ll believe in yourself. There are

sacrifices which you must be will ing to make. Though I regret some of mine, that is the

price for success, you would agree with me its not much of a bad regret. Nothing goes for


What people say doesn’t really matter. Other students often speak badly about certain

lecturers and courses. Its their way of justifying their failure. You hear phrases like “he is a

wicked lecturer”, “nobody makes an ‘A’ in that course”. Never let those words bother you. I

tell you what? Listen to them and take note of it to work harder. I performed better in the

toughest courses.

Never underestimate your potentials for the difference between you and the best guy in

class is the time he devotes for study. Well natural intelligence is a factor too. By

mentioning study, I don’t mean blindly memorizing just to pass your tests. Go out and

develop this passion for your discipline that would drive you to study with genuine

interest in the subject.

In your spare time, talk to your lecturers and professors about your favorite topic and your

career. Read outside your course content, sometimes outside your discipline to be


Never forget to strike a


5 things You need to Know About Success If You are above 20years

1.Fear is your enemy.

Specifically the fear of missing something. In many ways, each decision you make closes doors, but they also open different doors. You know what doesn’t do anything for you? Standing still. Face it. You’re going to have to make decisions, some of them will be tough, some of them will be wrong, but most of them will lead you in a direction you want to go. Take the plunge. Don’t let fear stall you. Fear should fear you.

2. Drake is wrong. Make new friends.

Drake has somehow influenced a generation of young people to make “No New Friends,” and it’s just flat silly. Make new friends. Meet new people. Build new relationships. Build together, grow together, learn together, and dominate your young lives together. It’s important to stay connected, and having friends and a large network is a great way to do that.

3. There’s nothing wrong with failing.

As long as you learn from it.

4. Invest in yourself.

It’s pretty well hammered into our heads that we have to invest. Invest in stocks, bonds, our retirement, 401k, Roth IRA – invest invest invest. But it’s important to invest in yourself. Invest in yourself by reading for pleasure. Invest in yourself by working out. Invest in yourself by treating yourself. Invest in yourself by maintaining your health. You are the greatest investment you’ll ever make.

5. Have a SOFU.

SOFU. It stands for Sense Of F*cking Urgency. You need to put in the time to master what it is that you want to do and make connections. You have to work hard. You’ve got to bleed and sweat and cry. You have to earn it. And the only thing that will hold you back is a lack of that SOFU. Have a SOFU. Live it. Breathe it. You’ll achieve the greatness you want.


5 Foolish Things Guys Who Cohabit With Girls in Universities do!!!

During my sojourn in the Ivory Tower, I knew many guys who had their girlfriends stay with them! The truth is that any girl that brings her stuffs to stay in your house in school must have a secrete plan. Now, you ain’t married yet she stays with you in your one-room apartment or probably, a bed-sitter. You may think you are having a swell time, but my guy, let me tell you, you are definitely in for it!!! When a guy allows his girlfriend to stay with him in school, he is bound to do the following 5 foolish things:

1) You spend the hard-earned money of your parents or guardians to rent an apartment and she packs in. She will save the money that has been given to her and use it to better her life! You go dey there dey form ‘married man’ I guess you have never worked for money before so you don’t freaking know what it means to cough out thousands or hundreds of thousands to rent an apartment! I know guys who wouldn’t allow their younger ones stay with them in school, but dem fit pay continuously for an apartment for dem and their girlfriends from 100L to final year. What a pity!!!

2) You start feeding her! Deh say small pikin wey wan carry e papa for shoulder, na big blokos go suffocate am!!! When you decide to live like a married man, you must also accept the responsibilities of a married man! Simple. How can you be taking care of somebody when you are still being taken care of? I don’t get it. Most girls who find themselves in such position would definitely pray it lasts till they sit for their degree exams! She buys Brazilian hairs, jewelry, shoes, bags, clothes, etc with her up-keep money And you? You use yours to buy breads, fry eggs and make tea for the both of you! Not forgetting that her friends will still come and eat. When will you have sense then?

3) If both of you are in the same dept., you end up doing assignments for her, writing tests and exams for her! Didn’t God give her brain? There’s a high possibility that she would graduate with a 2.1 and you, a 2.2 or a 3rd class because God must surely punish you for cheating and impersonating

4) You lose your privacy and the opportunity to interact and associate with other reasonable, focused and ambitious students on campus! Your friends take precaution before they visit you. You are stuck with just one person. Why do you think young people are always encouraged to reach out to and make friends with members of the opposite sex far from the time they would be getting married? I ask you, Papa Lotanna!!! Yes, that’s who you are since you have decided to get married in school without the knowledge of your parents. That’s why I still prefer private universities. Things like cohabiting hardly take place!

5) Foolishly thinking that both of you will get married at last! Most of the guys I knew personally in the university who cohabited with their girlfriends were later dumped or jilted after graduation. Reason: those girls would not want to lose their privacy normally living with a guy from 100L to final year but they decided to cohabit to save their resources and live on the guys’ resources I told you, these girls have plans and you are not part of their plans…just one of the steps on the ladder for those plans to be achieved!!! So when will you have sense, I asked again?

Go to school, study very hard, learn a trade or skill as you are schooling. Make adequate plans for life after graduation. Stop making marriage plans with your that babe that cohabits with you. If you do, you do, you either day-dreaming or living in a fool’s paradise! You are free to have girlfriend because you are mature but don’t allow them cohabit with you!

A word is enough for the wise…peace to ya’ al